Marriage should be a solid structure that can defeat just abut anything. We ask regular people who have stayed through healthy relationship and marriage for some tips.
“Healthy communication. You must communicate consistently. Nobody is going to read your mind, so if you are one of those who think their partner is a mind-reader, just know that you are moving the marriage into a difficult situation. Learn to communicate.” – Anderson
“You must make out time to spend together. The time you spend must be full of kindness, love and understanding. There’s no point spending time together if you are going to antagonize each other. If you make it a habit to spend time together, your life will be richer and your love stronger.” – Collins
“I show appreciation for everything my husband does. At first it seemed performative, but after eight years together, he understands that’s who I am and he appreciates it. I take nothing for granted. Appreciation is important. He also has learnt to appreciate me for even the little things. If I fold his clothes, add some fruits to his meal, or even when I replace his car diffuser, he is appreciative. So our marriage is full of “thank yous”. I love it.”‘ – Edna
“You are two individuals from different backgrounds making a decision to live life together, of course you will disagree on some things, but the way you handle your disagreements matter. Resolve conflict with respect for your partner and in a healthy way. Don’t say things you will regret. Be intentional of protecting each other even when you argue or disagree.” – Osas
“They say you cannot stay romantic forever in your marriage. When you start having children and all the responsibilities of raising a family, you won’t have time for grand and elaborate romantic gestures. But small gestures can still be very romantic. A kind smile. A warm hug. A gentle voice. A small gift. A surprise note. One time I was complaining about the price of a snack I like and how it keeps increasing. My husband came back a few days later with a carton of the snack. I felt so loved.” – Anwuli
How do you keep your love and marriage alive?
