I’ve known my girlfriend since 2019, and we officially started dating last November. Before we got together, she had a brief encounter with her male best friend, which she confessed to me, and I forgave her, trusting she wouldn’t see him again. However, I caught him at her apartment once, leading to a temporary breakup, but we reconciled and started dating officially. We spent time together during the christmas holidays, and despite some bumps, things seemed to be going well. However, in January, due to financial issues, I couldn’t visit her as planned. When I did visit in February, I found out she was pregnant. She decided not to keep the baby due to financial instability and planned not to tell her parents. however, we decided to move in together, with her relocating to my state.
Since moving in, she hasn’t contributed financially or done much around the house, which has been frustrating, especially as I cover all expenses. Recently, we discussed her moving back to her mother’s house for better care and medical attention, because we couldn’t afford prenatal visits. During a recent ER visit, we found out she is 19 weeks pregnant, which counts backwards to mid-January. This timeline makes me doubt the baby is mine since we moved in in February. I’m struggling with how to address my doubts with her, as we still live together, and I want to avoid a hostile environment. The situation is overwhelming, and I’m unsure if my suspicions are justified or if I’m overthinking.
How should I handle this situation and request a DNA test without causing further conflict?
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I really think forgiving her a few times in the past was you overlooking really red flags.
I believe women are wired different. If she cheated before, she’ll cheat again. It wasn’t accidental.
Now to the crux of the matter,I think you should ask for a DNA. It’s in everyone’s best interest.
Overlooking the red flag… interesting perspective.